Susan Cain - Manifesto for Introverts
Updated: Oct 8
I hate it when people ask me: "Why are you so quiet?" Because I am. That's how I function. I don't ask others "Why do you talk so much?" It's rude. Keanu Reeves
A quiet temperament is a hidden superpower. Don't listen to the shamers who tell you that you need to be extroverted to fit in.
There's a word for "people who are in their heads too much": thinkers.
Most great ideas spring from solitude.
You can stretch like a rubber band. You can do anything an extrovert can do, including stepping into the spotlight. There will always be time for quiet later.
But even though you'll need to stretch on occasion, you should return to your true self when you're done.
Two or three close friends means more than a hundred acquaintances (though acquaintances are great too).
Introverts and extroverts are yin and yang - we love and need each other. When we join together, we're so much better than the sum of our two parts. Together we are more.
It's okay to cross the hallway to avoid small talk.
You don't need to be a cheerleader to lead. Just ask Mahatma Gandhi.
Speaking of Ghandi, he said: "In a gentle way, you can shake the world."
You can have boundaries on interacting with others. It's acceptable to go out for short periods and to leave earlier than others do. It's healthy to lean into ourselves and do a gut check: "Yeah what do I need right now?" It might be to sit in a quieter environment and have that be ok.
It's an admirable trait to show yourself kindness for your bandwidth.
Notable introverted leaders: Einsten, Beyonce, Warren Buffett, Rosa Parks, Abraham Lincoln, Michael Jordan, Barack Obama, Elton John, Lady Gaga, Tom Hanks, and Keanu Reeves.